The not-so super SuperMom’s diary…Thandi’s story so far….


“So guess what time it is right now? It is now 22:38 on the 21 August 2012. I would like to think I will remember this date, but with my memory, it’s likely I won’t. Why would I want to even remember this day? This is the day I made the crossover from human to superhuman.

I literally don’t know how I did it. I’d like to think it wasn’t all that bad, but it will definitely toughen me. After spending only 10 weeks on maternity leave, I seem to have jumped strait into the deep end this past week. Today, takes the cake!

Let me give you an idea of what this day was like so you can make up your own mind about my supernatural potential…..

I went to sleep at around 0:00 this morning after feeding Baby K. He has the flu, so I knew I would be up again soon to soothe him again and unblock his nose for him (poor thing).

2:15 – he wakes up. Just as I thought. Nose is blocked and needs clearing. Thank goodness for saline.

4:45 – awake again. This time, he was hungry and needed a few tickles and a hug.

05:30 – wake up my 9yr old daughter to bath and get ready for school.

06:00 – dad gets up and bathes our 4yr old and gets her ready. Baby K is in my arms. He’ll probably only sleep till around 06:30.

06:30 – Baby K sleeps. Girls off to school with Dad. I start writing a report for training I completed the day before, for a client. Finished that around 7:45.

The rest of the day was a blur, but went something like this….

9 o clock breakfast meeting- business partner
11 o clock coaching session with client
13 o clock come home to express more breastmilk for Baby K
13:30 drive across town to get school enrollment forms for next year for my 9 yr old daughter ( I literally found out about this on Monday this week)!
I went to 3 different schools
15:00 had to go to police station to certify copies I made at office. I realize I forgot one document and had to go back to office to print and then back to police station to certify it again.
16:00 pick up 4 yr old. Reminded by her teacher that she needs to bring baked cakes for a bakers cake sale tomorrow. Aaaaargh!!!
16:30 pick up 9yr old from school. Collect report from teacher. Discuss her performance this term. I’m happy, teacher is happy, so off I go back home.
17:15 cooking while catching up on soapies…supper ready around 19:00 Spend the time multitasking between cooking, playing games with girls and filling in enrollment forms!
18:00 feed baby k. Careful i dont burn the chicken! Lol!!
19:00 give everybody supper while I play with Baby K who just woke up from a very very short nap Complete forms
21:00 start making those *&^%#@* pancakes for the bake sale tomorrow. Did I mention that somewhere in my day I managed to go to the store and buy the dough mix and a baking tin for this wonderful project???

So it’s now 23:00. I am just now popping my last tray of cupcakes into the oven. 20 mins from now I should be going to bed for the night. Let’s see if baby k agrees with that???”


The parent coach takes up the story…

I think Thandi’s diary sounds so familiar to most working Mom’s -especially when you have a newborn who is number two or three in the family! Life just seems to go faster and faster, with so many demands upon us from all directions! Sometimes this can be overwhelming.  But let’s look at Thandi’s strategy, she has got so many things in place to support herself and her family which is amazing –

1) take note of how Dad is involved in various aspects of the daily routine, getting the girls up for school and school lifts – this means the tasks are being shared in very practical ways! Which in turn makes Thandi feel supported in a very real and tangible way.

2) Thandi had prepared herself for an extra broken night because Baby K was not well – one of the very common occurrences of having siblings at school is that baby will catch the snuffles. Thandi has prepared herself for the extra wake up and knows to listen for the different kind of cry from the usual hungry cry which surfaced a couple of hours later. She remains calm and peaceful whether soothing him or feeding.

3) In the rush of the day she has managed to multi-task work, meetings, shopping, school lifts and late night baking – WOW Thandi – you are a Super Mom!

4) Thandi will need to pace herself as she builds up her hours back at work, but with an involved husband, and to older sisters to entertain little brother, she needs to create opportunities to put her feet up for short rests when possible…. We will talk about other coping strategies for going back to work next time



About parentcoachsa

Steph has over 30 year's experience working with families to design child care solutions and supporting parents to be the best parents they can be. In addition she has worked with corporates to find work-life balance solutions for their staff. As a practitioner I have become increasingly aware that work-life balance has become a critical issue, particularly in an age in which the demands of work are often at odds with home and family life. I am passionate about family life, it is the catalyst for every other relationship we have - in every other area of life, we expect to study, get a qualification, try something on appro , we want to feel in control - however it is the one area of life, that none of the above applies - Babies do not arrive with a parenting manual! It is my privilege as a Parent and Life Coach, to partner with you as you take hold of the challenges you are facing in your family, in your life and work with you , supporting you to achieve the decisions and outcomes you are choosing for your family and for your life. It is my job, to keep you on track, to cheer you on, when the "going gets tough". Through coaching, understanding of yourself and your child, and his or her phase of development will enable you to consciously develop a parenting style that will benefit you and your family.
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