Do you find you are so busy ensuring that everyone else is ok there is no time for you?
At work, it’s a rush to ensure all the urgent and important tasks are completed each day, meetings attended, calls returned and diary organized for the next day. Then it is time to flee the office, while stuck in the traffic on the way to school to collect your children from aftercare, you are mentally concocting the shopping list of items you need pick up so that supper will not be another take-away or frozen meal. Once at school you pile the kids in the back, “have you got your homework? Have you got your sports kit” and so on….Friday afternoon …..another week has passed …phew!!
But then the circus begins again on Saturday morning with swimming lessons and ballet and soccer. A child’s party, some shopping and family gathering on Sunday and oh my goodness the race is on …and it’s Monday morning again!!
Does this sound familiar? I know many of my coaching clients feel like they are on this treadmill of life and they do not know how to get off!
The thought that “there has to be more to life than this” is the beginning of looking for a different way of being. The act of reaching out and dialing the number for a coaching session can be the start of the journey of slowing down.
When we run around like “headless chickens,” everything is ‘urgent’, ‘critical’, ‘should have happened yesterday’ and our bodies become exhausted from the cortisol our brain is pumping around our bodies as if we were in a life and death situation.
Meanwhile, what our head, body and hearts need is a little bit of time to breathe and get centered.
But HOW ?
If you google “wellness” or “work-life balance” and hundreds of options are staring you in the face – where do you start? Try taking just ten minutes by yourself with a note pad you will begin to find the answers that will work for you.
Rather than complaining about the lack of time in your day, rather turn it around into a question and ask yourself “How could I plan my day (or week) better so I had some time to relax?” – Just sit with the question for a couple of minutes and the answers will start to flow, jot down every idea that comes to mind, whether they make sense or not. After you think you have all your ideas, ask yourself again “Is there anything else I can do to plan my day (or week) better so I have some time to relax?” and do not be surprised if a few more ideas come up for you!
Now take a look at what you have written and see what you can implement immediately and what will take a little bit of organization, or involve someone else. If the outcome is you have created a bit of breathing space for yourself each day, soon you will be amazed at the impact of creating those little breaks in your day – whether it is to soak in the bath, take a run, sit and read a book or watch your favourite series – the point is you have taken control over your day by creating this break in your busy schedule to breathe!!
If you find this process difficult and feel overwhelmed reach for your phone and call me for your coaching session to empower you to be at the centre of your life!