Encouragement – wow, we all need some of that! If you listen to the parent of a toddler going round a shop we will often hear “don’t touch that!” “No! leave that alone”, and then we wonder why our toddler throws themselves on the floor having had an angry tone of voice yelling at them for 20 minutes in the supermarket – all they were doing was what toddlers do best, investigate, be curious and making sense of the world around them through touch. Of course we need to be on our toes and three steps ahead of what they are going to find interesting and this can be exhausting – but imagine how your day would feel, if you decided to encourage his curiosity in a safe way?
Ask him questions about what he can see which will involve conversation e.g. “what colour are the pegs?”, “please will you bring Mommy the nappy bag?” and then praise him for getting it right, or completing the task. Let the ‘NO’ only sound out when it is a serious safety issue. By “baby-proofing’ your home (e.g. plug covers on every plug-point and putting china, glass and electronic gadgets out of reach) you can significantly reduce the number of times you have to say “NO”!
Not brain surgery, just positive practical parenting to make life a little easier all round; we all need to be encouraged, have positive feedback and appreciation for what we have done well. We need it when we are a toddler and when we are all grown up!