E is for Encouragement

Encouragement – wow, we all need some of that! If you listen to the parent of a toddler going round a shop we will often hear “don’t touch that!” “No! leave that alone”, and then we wonder why our toddler throws themselves on the floor having had an angry tone of voice yelling at them for 20 minutes in the supermarket – all they were doing was what toddlers do best, investigate, be curious and making sense of the world around them through touch. Of course we need to be on our toes and three steps ahead of what they are going to find interesting and this can be exhausting – but imagine how your day would feel, if you decided to encourage his curiosity in a safe way?

Ask him questions about what he can see which will involve conversation e.g. “what colour are the pegs?”, “please will you bring Mommy the nappy bag?” and then praise him for getting it right, or completing the task. Let the ‘NO’ only sound out when it is a serious safety issue. By “baby-proofing’ your home (e.g. plug covers on every plug-point and putting china, glass and electronic gadgets out of reach) you can significantly reduce the number of times you have to say “NO”!

Not brain surgery, just positive practical parenting to make life a little easier all round; we all need to be encouraged, have positive feedback and appreciation for what we have done well. We need it when we are a toddler and when we are all grown up!

E if for encouragement

About parentcoachsa

Steph has over 30 year's experience working with families to design child care solutions and supporting parents to be the best parents they can be. In addition she has worked with corporates to find work-life balance solutions for their staff. As a practitioner I have become increasingly aware that work-life balance has become a critical issue, particularly in an age in which the demands of work are often at odds with home and family life. I am passionate about family life, it is the catalyst for every other relationship we have - in every other area of life, we expect to study, get a qualification, try something on appro , we want to feel in control - however it is the one area of life, that none of the above applies - Babies do not arrive with a parenting manual! It is my privilege as a Parent and Life Coach, to partner with you as you take hold of the challenges you are facing in your family, in your life and work with you , supporting you to achieve the decisions and outcomes you are choosing for your family and for your life. It is my job, to keep you on track, to cheer you on, when the "going gets tough". Through coaching, understanding of yourself and your child, and his or her phase of development will enable you to consciously develop a parenting style that will benefit you and your family.
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