We often find we can identify what we do not like when it comes to behaviour because it evokes a negative reaction in us. If we focus on what we do not like – that is all we will see, and it is probably what we will experience more of. If we focus on the tiniest thing that is going well, or a positive thing that our child does and praise him for it, e.g. sharing a toy with his sister, or tidying up the lego when you ask him, he is far more likely to do it again, because he wants to hear that praise. He likes that feeling he gets, when he receives positive feedback from you! And so we move from like to love to loving. We can love the most difficult children through seeing the little things that he does well!