Parenting a child is a job for life! Children are brought into this world, wired to be connected to the people they have a genetic connection to. If we engage in those early days and weeks of becoming a parent, a bond builds up that equips us for life, that is how we are made to be! It does not always come naturally to us, depending on how we were parented, but we can learn. Just as with a new romance, we want to spend lots of time with our beloved, watching every movement, listing to every sound, enjoying his interests while awake and movements and sounds while sleeping, – we call it “falling in love” and we do so similarly with our babies in the early weeks while they are so dependent on us for everything.
We are also required to support our children towards independence into adulthood, and so as they grow strong enough to crawl, to walk, to read and write, to play with friends, to join the team, our parenting-style needs to be engaged and age-appropriate, letting our child know that we are right there cheering them on to what they can achieve. It is not about us, it is about wanting the best for our child. The best for our child is to support them to achieve their goals.