Practical Parenting: A is for

 

A-is-forThe AMYGDALA – if we understood how much this tiny part of our brain ruled our lives we might pay more attention to it! About the size of an almond, it keeps us in survival fight or flight mode – the extreme emotions we experience are emanating from this part of our brain. In our early days of life, this is what let’s us express (through our only language of crying) that we are uncomfortable, hungry, lonely, fearful. As we are raised in a family with nurturing adults who meet our every need, the neo cortex (frontal lobe) where emotional intelligence resides, develops over time and can “temper” the extreme actions of the amygdala! As we parent our children through infancy, toddler hood and into the pre-school years, we can add to their emotional intelligence through giving them support to make sense of their fears and frustrations and give reassurance they are not alone and a solution can be found together. By showing them a different way of processing their emotions, they learn to stem the amygdala hijack which otherwise rules their lives.

Ever wondered why your boss goes off “pop” when something does not work out the way they had hoped, or a colleague “collapses” when she has an argument with her boyfriend? The amygdala is the culprit!

By teaching our children to:

  1. Identify their feelings,
  2. Identify the cause of what has happened and
  3. Support them to find a solution, a plan B or get a different perspective on what has upset them,

We then empower them to take control of their emotions and as far as possible take control of the situation they are in!
If you want to read more on this topic, I suggest “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman.

http-::www.brainwaves.com:images:brain-basic_and_limbicAnd then there is AUNTIE – the un-sung hero of many families!! She may not be a “real” auntie by blood line – but she plays the role of a special female nurturing role model to every one in the family. The one who the children can have fun with on the floor, tell stories to, have the odd treat with, but most importantly everyone knows they can trust her. Every family needs one!

 

 

 

 

 

About parentcoachsa

Steph has over 30 year's experience working with families to design child care solutions and supporting parents to be the best parents they can be. In addition she has worked with corporates to find work-life balance solutions for their staff. As a practitioner I have become increasingly aware that work-life balance has become a critical issue, particularly in an age in which the demands of work are often at odds with home and family life. I am passionate about family life, it is the catalyst for every other relationship we have - in every other area of life, we expect to study, get a qualification, try something on appro , we want to feel in control - however it is the one area of life, that none of the above applies - Babies do not arrive with a parenting manual! It is my privilege as a Parent and Life Coach, to partner with you as you take hold of the challenges you are facing in your family, in your life and work with you , supporting you to achieve the decisions and outcomes you are choosing for your family and for your life. It is my job, to keep you on track, to cheer you on, when the "going gets tough". Through coaching, understanding of yourself and your child, and his or her phase of development will enable you to consciously develop a parenting style that will benefit you and your family.
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