Grandparents can provide a really important role in their grand-children’s lives. That special trustworthy person, who always has time for them, who does things rather more slowly than Mom and Dad who are always rushing from here to there.
Grandparents get to listen to stories, tell stories and can fill the gaps in a child’s world in a special way. One often hears the joke being told, “That the greatest gift of being a parent is becoming a grand-parent!” – well that maybe true! l remember my Mom teaching my daughters to bake cookies and the fun I could hear they were having in the kitchen, while I took a much needed nap from a sleepless nights with the twins. And my mother-in-law planting carrot and spinach seeds together and the passion with which they would watch each week to see the fruits of their labour! Special moments in their early years, can create special memories and learning which busy parents today just do not have time for!
The other “G” I want to mention today is good-enough. Brene Brown, in her book ‘Daring Greatly’ talks about the liberating truth of discovering that you don’t need to kill yourself trying to be the best Mom or Dad, or the best wife or husband or son or daughter – be at peace with being true to your inner voice, being the best you can be is “good-enough’.
When we get caught up in the rat race of trying to outsmart everyone else in our relationships we forget how to relate and winning is the only things that seems to matter – the trouble is with that perspective, everyone loses out, because you are no longer offering yourself to the world, but rather a mask of who you think you should be! Quieten your soul and listen to the answer of what is really important and you will begin to see that you become the best Mom, which only you can be, which is exactly what your children need! What will it take to be “good-enough’?